8 Signs That Couples Therapy Is Making Your Life Better
If you said “healthy boundaries,” you’re right! But do you know the other ways to tell your hard work at couples therapy is paying off?…
10 Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Candy Lovers
Discover unique gifts for candy lovers, from luxury treats to subscription boxes to candy-related ideas sure to delight!…
Sexy Valentine Day Gifts: 10 Spicy Ideas
Explore sexy Valentine’s Day gifts to boost happiness and intimacy. Find unique ideas like X-rated coloring books and boudoir photo albums.…
9 Best Kinky Valentine’s Gifts for Her, Him, and Them
Spice up Valentine’s Day with a kinky gift! Explore exciting options like nipple clamps, wax candles, and games for her, him, and them. …
Basics
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Why Talking to Strangers and Meeting New People Is Scary, and How to Do It Anyway
Starting a conversation with a stranger “in the wild” can be overwhelming. Expert Alaina Provenzano, LCSW, recommends a mindset and a few baby steps to try.…
How to Deal with Difficult Family Members During the Holidays
Dealing with difficult family members during the holidays is all about getting uncomfortable, says expert Caleb Birkhoff. Read more in our interview. …
Mindfulness and Relationships: Expert Q&A with Ellen Langer
Harvard mindfulness expert Ellen Langer talks about why mindfulness is a powerful way to improve your relationships, and how to harness it.…
Feeling Disconnected: AI, Social Isolation, Block Parties, and Health
We spoke with Yale expert Yusuf Ransome about social isolation and its effects on health — for individuals, neighborhoods, and society.…
How “Core Negative Image” Work Can Improve Your Relationship
The “Core Negative Image” (CNI) is a powerful relationship tool you can use to talk with your partner about your worst versions of each other. It can be a game changer.…
5 Losing and 5 Winning Relationship Strategies
Could your response to conflict be hurting your relationship? Learn what losing strategies look like and skills to practice to foster understanding and connection between you and your partner. …
Opinions
10 Principles of Emotional Responsibility I’m Teaching My Kids
When one person blames another for their own feelings or behavior, it’s unjust and can lead to conflict. Here’s how I teach my kids how to “stay in your lane.”…
Why Making “Willing Sacrifices” in a Relationship Is Essential
Healthy relationships involve compromise. Relationship therapist Erin Davidson outlines how to compromise without fueling resentment. …
You’re Not Responsible for Your Partner’s Sexual Satisfaction
The only desire you’re responsible for is your own. Sex therapist Erin Davidson explains how to cope with a libido discrepancy.…
Relationship News
Reading Literary Fiction May Make You More Emotionally Intelligent
But popular fiction may not have the same benefits.…
Your Co-Parent’s Bad Boss May Impact You More Than You Think
A study found a person’s feelings about their boss seemed to have a major knock-on effect on their co-parent, affecting their performance at work and with the kids.…
When Looking Fancy Might Not Be Favorable
New research reveals that people may choose to avoid wearing luxury brands when they want to convince others they can collaborate well on a team.…
Colleagues May Want Your Feedback More Than You Think
People want constructive feedback, but, curiously, they underestimate just how much other people want it, too, according to research.…
Research-Backed Advice
Codependency vs. Interdependency: Understanding the Difference and Finding Healthier Connections
Learn how to shift from a codependent to an interdependent relationship through open communication, setting boundaries, and possibly therapy.…
What Are Healthy Boundaries and How to Set Them
Healthy boundaries enhance trust and self-care. Prioritize, be clear, and uphold your values. Learn how to set limits. …
Listening to Your Partner’s Feelings: 5 Ways to Show Empathy
Being empathetic toward your partner starts with active listening and making an effort to put yourself in their shoes. Read more about cultivating empathy.…
7 Ways Childhood Trauma Can Affect Your Relationships
Difficulty asking for help, being socially withdrawn can all stem from the effects of childhood trauma. Find out how else trauma can manifest in adulthood. …
What Is Emotional Safety and How to Create It in Your Relationships
You can foster emotional safety in your relationship by getting vulnerable, using nonviolent communication, and more.…
How to Stand Up to a Bully at Work: 5 Tips
Standing up to a bully at work might feel impossible. But tactics like simply asking them to stop or putting concerns in writing might help curb the behavior. …
What Is DARVO? Examples, Tips, and Signs
DARVO is a technique some people use to shift the blame onto others after they’ve been abusive. Learn how to identify DARVO tactics and more. …
How Often Should You Talk in a Long-Distance Relationship?
Open and honest dialogue is key to finding the right communication frequency in a long-distance relationship. Find out how to get on the same page. …
What Is Co-Regulation? Definition and Tips
Making calm eye contact, hugging, speaking in a warm tone of voice, and modelling emotional regulation are all ways you can co-regulate your child, partner, or another adult.…
Gossip Definition: What Is It and How to Manage
Gossiping might seem fun in the moment, but it can hurt feelings and make it harder to build trust. Here’s how to avoid harmful gossip. …
Books
14 Best Lesbian Romance Novels: Literary, Genre, and Steamy
We’ve scoured the internet and our friends’ brains for the best lesbian romance novels in literary and genre fiction that are actually worth the read.…
7 Best Steamy Historical Romance Novels
Discover the steamiest historical romance novels that blend rich historical detail with sweeping love stories. Check out our curated list.…
17 Inclusive Children’s Books About Diverse Families
From multiracial households to LGBTQ+ parents, these stories foster understanding and inclusivity, enhancing young readers’ perspectives. …
Shopping
10 Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Candy Lovers
Discover unique gifts for candy lovers, from luxury treats to subscription boxes to candy-related ideas sure to delight!…
Sexy Valentine Day Gifts: 10 Spicy Ideas
Explore sexy Valentine’s Day gifts to boost happiness and intimacy. Find unique ideas like X-rated coloring books and boudoir photo albums.…
9 Best Kinky Valentine’s Gifts for Her, Him, and Them
Spice up Valentine’s Day with a kinky gift! Explore exciting options like nipple clamps, wax candles, and games for her, him, and them. …
Free Valentine’s Day Gifts: 10 No-Spend Ideas
Ideas for everyone, whether or not you intend on spending money this Valentine’s Day.…
9 Neat Father’s Day Gifts Nerdy Dads Will Love
Nerdy gift options to show dad you were paying attention when he showed you his niche interest, and you love him for it.…
The 20 Best Travel Games for Couples
Travel-specific games and conversation starters can help you and your partner pass the time and lighten the mood when you’re on the move.…
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